It Will Never Be Okay

    I grew up in a loving household where any form of violent discipline was deemed as unacceptable. My mother grew up in the same type of household, her father left when she was in her teens but even as an Italian man with a strong temper; beatings as punishment never occurred. My dad also has a fiery temper which I guess can be linked to his upbringing or his no crap tolerating personality. However he never laid a hand on my sister or me as kids and we grew up quite fine. I don't believe physical punishment is the way to go in a discipline situation, it can have emotionally damaging effects. The education system is no longer allowed to hit us with a paddle or have us wear a dunce cap. I believe both punishments destroy a child's self esteem and dignity and frankly why should teachers be spanking kids with a piece of wood. I am very thankful I was born when I was and grew up with the parents I have.

    A different parent might say, well it's my child and if they won't listen I'll straighten them up with a slap or a punch. When that child goes to their room they cry their eyes out and scramble the next day for excuses regarding their marks and bruises. A strong character trait of mine is simply to not tolerate injustices, it lights a fire in me. I mean honestly society teaches you that if your boyfriend or girlfriend hits you, leave him. If a spouse or partner hits you it isn't a healthy relationship, leave them. I strongly agree with both but shouldn't the refusal to put up with physical abuse start at an early age and couldn't it even be argued that a child that did get abused could not know what to do or even accept physical punishment from someone later in their life. I understand that in Things Fall Apart the culture in Africa and in that tribe is that a man is allowed to beat his wives and children at his free will, except during the Week of Peace of course. At one point the main character Okonkwo almost kills his second wife when after beating her he tries to shoot her, luckily he has a bad aim and misses. This treatment is something I could never stand for if I was an outsider and I just walked in on this happening. If I was in that culture I hope that I would rebel against everyone but I can't be for sure that I would, different countries have different cultures but concerning the culture I live in I don't agree with laying a hand on your child. When kids are little maybe a slight spank on the bottom would be warranted but I can't 100% say I would do that either. 

TGIT

I've realized that every Shonda Rhimes show makes me want to take on the profession being showed. First it was Grey's Anatomy a show filled with good looking doctors with great lives until disaster strikes. The show got me wanting to be a med student till I realized I'm not good with blood, too much school time, and I could never tell someone they had lost a loved one. Then Scandal made me want to have whatever job Olivia Pope has because come on who doesn't want to wear awesome suits and have two hunky guys interested  in them. And she is also bad ass. The last show in the TGIT run, How to Get Away With Murder is a master piece. Of course a show about law students would be a hit, especially when you cast Viola Davis as one of the main characters. You is kind, you is smart, you is important; side note The Help was an amazing movie. The only thing that bugged me about tonight's episode (aka How to Get Away With Murder) was realizing how some lawyers fight till the sentencing for criminals who should rot in jail but instead go free. That's the flaw in being a lawyer I suppose because if I found out my client was a P.O.S. I'd probably turn him in myself. The character of Viola Davis does claim she doesn't care if a client is guilty but if she doesn't care why is she freaking out about her husband's maybe guilty self; besides the fact it's her husband. Also if she's heartless why is she crying after sex unless she only meant she was heartless at work. Final thing, I would totally work for Shonda Rhimes because then I wouldn't have to wait every week to find out what happens. I lied, I'm currently about to google schools of law besides the Ivy Leagues, too bad I can't go to the fake college on the show and take Professor Keating's class.

Under pressure

Lately I find myself filling out college applications or googling careers. If you had asked me last year what I wanted to do I would have proudly said journalism. Now that it is actually my senior year and the deadlines for those college applications are in less than 6 months I find myself putting journalism down as my chosen major but saying I don't know to random strangers. It happened while I was at work one day when one of my customers was chatting to me while his dry cleaning spun around. The customer asked me what grade I was in and surprisingly didn't ask me the infamous question "what do you want to do?". Instead of questioning me he talked about his son who was a senior also. I listened as I charged his card and hung his dry cleaning on the bar by the desk. As he was about to leave he abruptly asked me "what do you want to do with your life?". That was the first time I didn't say journalism and instead blurted out " I don't know yet.". As I was tagging a bag of clothes that had been dropped off I realized that something was wrong, besides the fact I have to pick out my life career at 17, that I was doubting my life plan. I thought journalism would be the career for me but its a competitive field and if you're not good the chances of living like a Trump are minuscule. The part that really bummed me out was that there was no one to guarantee me that I could succeed in journalism and no real way to know if I could write like a big shot. I guess college is the place to find out that but shouldn't you know for sure before you agree to spend so much money and take out loans that you have to pay till you die. I guess the questions that really keep me up: how is engineering, how easy is it to get a full ride, and is journalism coming back on the scene anytime soon? One last point, if I was born into fame I wouldn't be having this problem right now, no offense Kendall Jenner you do work that runway. Cough cough I'm looking at you Kylie.